I hereby invite all overthinkers from every walk of life to answer this question…
HOW DO YOU COPE WITH ALL THAT THINKING?
Every single event or happening or occurrence has a million different ways it can go. There’s the good, the slightly good, the manageable, the bad, the terrible, the ‘kill-me-now’ and so much more depending on how deep you can go. Notice I didn’t add ‘the excellent or perfect or great’ because for overthinkers, there’s almost no such thing.
Even when things go great, there’s still another way to spin it in your head as to why that thing went great and what’s to come. One of the hardest things to do as an overthinker is make a decision. It doesn’t even have to be an important one… just a simple ‘what to wear today’ is enough to get the engine overheated. There’s also ‘what to eat’ and ‘what to do first’. Earlier today, I spent a good 30 minutes deciding whether to have my bath first or eat first.
For regular people, every day is a struggle… but for us, it’s almost every minute. It gets harder when it comes to important decisions or even worse… love. Love is already hard enough for everyone, imagine how much harder it can be when you overthink every single thing you do or say. When you catch a whiff of a weird vibe from your partner (he/she is probably just tired from work or something) and you start thinking… ‘I knew this would end someday, the time has finally come’. Sometimes you would even laugh at yourself at how silly you’re being but do you stop? No. Can you stop? Well, psychologists say it’s possible… but then what happens when you stop overthinking? What if that’s your edge or what your partner loves about you in the first place? What if you become a stone cold, empty soul when you stop thinking about the things you think about? What if? What if? What if?
The truth is that overthinking could be a blessing as well as a curse. As for me, I think it could be part of the things that make me who I am and it helps me be a lot more calculating and realistic with the plans and decisions I make in life. It could also be the reason I have constant migraines.
Sometimes it seems like overthinking could make one a potential pessimist. You tend to lean more towards the bad stuff because let’s be honest, bad things happen more often than good things. Having this mindset helps you brace up for the bad stuff and they don’t hit too hard (unless you’re unreasonably emotional like me), but it also could make you a negative person at the end of the day.
To the overthinkers out there, try to take it easy and learn to control it. Life isn’t a bed of roses, neither is it a bed of thorns. No one is out to get you, the universe has a lot more to focus on than just you. When something good happens, try not to wonder why it happened, just count your blessings and move on. Learn to let things go. Try to stay in the middle, don’t drift towards negativity and risk being the grinch’s twin or lean too much towards positivity and forget your head in the clouds. It would help to have someone that gets you and helps you out or have something that pulls you out of the whirlwind. Finally when it comes to decisions, be wise but don’t hold back. I think deep down, we all know these things, we all know what to do and how to overthink a little less but then, healing is never easy.
Good luck my dear friends.
Yours in infinite trains of thought.