Love & Its Chasers Come Here.
It’s a given that every single person out there has seen someone else enjoy something they crave or desire and the feeling of envy and jealousy that comes with that is like nothing else in this world… and that’s perfectly normal. Asides the struggle to “get the bag” and/or leave the country, there’s also the struggle to be “couple goals”. I think a good number of people nowadays know exactly how it feels like to be “single to stupor” and spend night after night stalking your favorite online couple or stalking that girl/boy you like who seems to be in a happy relationship. Maybe you even clicked on the link to this post after double texting that crush that’s airing you so hard.
I know, it hurts like hell sometimes. A lot of “hard guys/girls” like to act as though they don’t care about finding love. Some people go out of their way to be “savage” when they’re low-key shooting several shots looking for someone to call them baby. It’s a sad, sad world.
Now, this next thing I’m about to say might be baffling, annoying even, but hear me out… What if love isn’t for everyone?
This is a personal opinion and I might upset you further, but “don’t stop” reading. I am not saying love does not exist, it does. I just think it’s misunderstood by the people who seek it. Personally, I feel like a lot of the people (me included) looking for love and commenting “God when?” or “couple goals” everywhere are not actually ready for that love that they seek.
I don’t know what it is but I do know that love has nothing to do with having someone buy you “bone straight” or having a girl that’ll wash your clothes or a man that’ll send you girlfriend allowance. If that’s what you’re looking for, then good luck! Some people only look at the surface and desire what they may or may not even understand. If you’re going to love someone, then it only makes sense to do it right… and what’s better than doing it at the right time? Have you ever thought that maybe you’re still single because deep down, you’re actually not ready?
(Again, this is just my theory so don’t take it too seriously, “problem no dey finish”.) Basically, love WILL NOT come until you’re ready for it. Someone once told me that you probably won’t find it if you keep searching for it.
“It’ll most likely creep up on you and with who you aren’t expecting”, he said.
Another point I’d like to make is that, as much as I’d like to believe that everyone eventually finds love… that’s just wishful thinking. Some people never do. I mean, how do you explain single parents or the people who die before finding their “missing rib”? If we really only have one soulmate then what happens to the other person?
We can lie to ourselves and keep pretending but the fact remains that some of us will not find love. A lot of us will settle and the rest will end up with the wrong people.
Regardless of how many times you ask God “when?” it’ll come when it’ll come (if it’ll come at all). I believe that only some people are lucky enough to find true love, but I can’t call this a fact because no one really knows what love is. It is not just one thing, it means different things to different people. So if you can recognize what love means to you and you find it with someone, then hold on to it.
Maybe you’re one of the lucky ones.