If you ask anyone who "found love" recently how it's going, chances are that you are going to get something like "e don spoil". This is because everyone is high on some type of ment and the emotions of others seem to be perfect playthings. So, gbogbo wa la ma je breakfast has become the new anthem on the streets.
These days, very little is expected from relationships, so it's always a matter of time before they crash. However, there are a few who remain in search of love amid this madness. If you are one of these few, you have come to the right place.
The sole purpose of this article is to help you find love whether you are on the streets of Lagos, London, or Ontario. Finding love isn't as difficult as you think and you should realize this from the content of this article.
This might seem a little basic but I believe it's the very first step to finding the love of your life. I mean, how do you find who's meant to complete you if you don't know who you are?
So, before stepping out in search of love again, you should endeavor to learn more about yourself. I believe some of the most important things to know about yourself are your short and long term goals, how you like to be treated, the kind of person you would be happy with, etc.
The importance of loving yourself can't be overemphasized. All your life, you should be completely in love with who you are, how you look, what you do, etc. Loving yourself will make it much easier for someone else to love you.
Also, you will be less likely to find yourself in a shitty relationship when you love yourself. This is because you will understand that you deserve the very best from your partner. I mean, you're a fucking spec and your partner shouldn't be ignoring your texts or making you sleep unhappy. You deserve all the love, chocolates, and quality time in the world.
I understand why you might be in a hurry to find love. However, this is someone that is meant to sweep you off your feet and then, walk into the sunset with you. So, you shouldn't be in a hurry.
Take your time, make money, hang out with friends, go on dates, and enjoy life. Good things take time.
I named this "The Talking Stage" at first but I had to change it for some reasons. Yeah, the talking stage is essential as it can show you if the new person is the right person. However, the talking stage can also be a trap and you can wake up one morning and realize that you've been chilling in the friend zone.
How can this be avoided? You have to ensure that you're not just talking to this person but also vibing. This means you need to pay attention to the length of your phone calls, the speed of replies, how long the person can go without seeing or talking to you, etc.
It is also vital that you make your intentions clear when you start talking to someone you like. This will prevent a situation in which you are catching feelings while the other person is catching cruise.
The increasing number of failed relationships means there are probably more damaged people on the streets than ever. If you are struggling with a broken heart, you should put in your best efforts to heal before going into a new relationship.
In the same vein, you should know that it's never a good idea to start a relationship with people who aren't ready to let go of their trauma. Don't go around apologizing or trying to fix hearts that you didn't break. Broken people are like shattered glass and hence, you can easily hurt yourself by trying to fix them. If you must date a brokenhearted person, be sure that this person is prepared to heal.
I understand how easy it is, for guys especially, to attract partners using mouths and pockets filled with lies. However, this will be a recipe for disaster unless you are only looking for one night stands and flings.
While it may be more difficult getting someone to love you without deception, you will find someone eventually and it will be pure bliss from there. Just imagine waking up next to someone who loves your ass for exactly who you are. So, you never have to lie or hide again.
Love is a beautiful thing and if there is anyone who deserves to be loved, it is you. Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment section. Stay woke.
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